by Soo-Inn Tan | Sep 10, 2004 | 2004, Articles, Death & Grief, Life Issues
I dreaded conducting funerals for children. I can still remember the small coffins, specially made. I recall the tiny plots in the cemetery. I remember looking at the tiny bodies, eyes closed forever this side of life. I recall the teddy bears or other favourite toys...
by Soo-Inn Tan | Feb 13, 2004 | 2004, Articles, Death & Grief, Life Issues, Media, Movies & Television
Caught the 46th Grammys last Monday (Sunday night in the U.S.). I was relieved that there were no wardrobe malfunctions. Was pleasantly surprised by the appearance of Earth, Wind and Fire. Middle-aged paunchy musicians can still rock. There’s hope! But there was...
by Soo-Inn Tan | Jan 25, 2004 | 2004, Articles, Death & Grief, Life Issues
Apart from the four years I was studying in Canada, I have never spent a Chinese New Year reunion dinner without dad. His absence loomed large this year. (Dad passed away October 15th 2003.) I recalled that we always had steamboat for our reunion dinners. In recent...
by Soo-Inn Tan | Sep 15, 2003 | 2003, Articles, Death & Grief, Family, Life Issues, Widowhood
I am reluctant to speak. I look at you and I have some idea of what you are going through. More than that, I have some idea of what you will be going through. Ten years after losing my wife I am just beginning to get some feel of the solo dance we need to learn after...
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by Soo-Inn Tan | Apr 11, 2003 | 2003, Articles, Death & Grief, Life Issues
There is a very powerful moment in the first Star Wars movie, now titled Episode 4. It is the moment when the planet Alderaan is destroyed by the bad guys. We see the moment of its destruction reflected in the response by Obi-Wan Kenobi. Emotionally he is overwhelmed...
by Soo-Inn Tan | Sep 13, 2002 | 2002, Articles, Death & Grief, Life Issues, Suffering, Violence, World Issues
I lost a wife to lung cancer. After been touched by pain and tragedy I can never again be glib about the pain of others. On the anniversary of September 11th I look afresh at the impossible pictures. It is too much. The pain represented there is way too much for me to...
